Why write a murder mystery, make it funny and choose a
menopausal businesswoman as your amateur sleuth? Why not?
When you start out as an English teacher with an urge to
write humor and you buy into an ad agency where blogging becomes a must, the
stars begin to align. Then when you’re cajoled into creating a blog on
menopause - because you’ve become the
defacto resource for desperate women who have waited too long to educate
themselves properly - which is
eventually republished by Vibrant Nation (a site for women 50+) and Alltop (a
general information site) things start to heat up.
The feedback from Menologues, and my partnership with the Vibrant
Nation community have taught me some things. Fifty-plus women are vastly
ignored and overlooked by the world at large, and many of us lack the
confidence to shout loud enough to insist on being heard. Are we less talented,
intelligent or relevant than anyone else out there? Hell no!
Then why? Is it because we have typically been the
caretakers and the ‘sacrificers?’ Or is it because, in past generations, we’ve
never been thought of as amounting to much and we’re now on the downside of the
equation? You tell me. The real question
is: what can we do about it? In some ways perceptions have improved, but recent
experience tells me it’s nowhere near enough!
Donna Leigh, the protagonist of my first novel: Is It Still
Murder Even If She Was a Bitch? doesn’t think of herself as old or even past
her prime. She’s just living life to the fullest and dealing with what comes
her way. She’s running an ad agency when
a former colleague is murdered. Since it’s a known fact that she and the victim
were not on friendly terms, Donna Leigh takes the pragmatic approach and jumps
right into the investigation in an attempt to stay off the suspect list. As an
ad agency owner, Donna lives in a young world; and while she doesn’t try to
fight the natural progression of time, she is clearly influenced by the bright
young culture in which she lives.
During the arduous editing process of the first in the “Donna
Leigh Mystery” series, one of my female editors noted “women that age don’t
talk like that.” I thought, hmmmppphhh, she must be really young to make that
stereotypical statement. When I met this editor and realized that she was my
age or older, the enormous disparity of lifestyle situations among women aged 48
to 65+ really became apparent to me. We don’t know all that much about each
other; how could we expect the rest of the world to know about us?
I can’t single handedly change stereotyping of women my age
- some of which even originates from women my age. I have created a character
who is menopausal, or even post menopausal, very real and neither old nor
trying too hard to hang onto her youth. She is not an aberration, but those who
are uninformed often view her as such. She’s a smart lady, but she has her
share of flaws.
Although I can’t abolish stereotypes I can depict her as one
realistic example of a menopausal woman today: stylish and attractive. As far
as what she isn’t: mid-twenties, model gorgeous and reed thin – does that keep
us from wanting to read about her crime solving adventures? Only time will tell.
But why shouldn’t women have heroes at every age? We need a
reason to laugh and see ourselves through protagonists portrayed as admirable,
but not flawless. We need not have to accept the premise that the protagonist
must be a very young woman, so it’s too late for us!
And as far as the murder theme goes. As a lifetime Agatha
Christie zealot (we already have our octogenarian role model in Miss Marple) I
was delighted by two things I learned once my novel was underway; writing is
incredibly fun and getting to kill off the bad guys feels damn good – even if
it’s only on paper!
Visit Robin at http://www.rldonovan.com/
Robin Donovan is the author of the blog, Menologues, a humorous yet informative look at the trials and tribulations of menopause by someone who’s been there. Menologues is republished on two commercial sites: Vibrant Nation and Alltop, and has won regional honors for social media at the AMA Pinnacles and PRSA Paper Anvil awards.
OMG...how have I missed your blog. As soon as I stop pouring ice down my blouse to relieve my hot flashes, I'm headed right there.
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to read this one! At 59.5 years old, I so appreciate you!
That’s music to my ears (eyes really)! You have inspired me to write another post, as soon as I finish pouring ice down MY blouse! Who says it gets better?
DeleteI absolutely love the title of the book and your protagonist! It feels like a complete breath of fresh air and much needed. I will definitely look this up, right now!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for the words of support! A breath of fresh air is precisely what I was shooting for. Remind me to tell you how I arrived at the title sometime…
DeleteExcellent post. Looking forward to book two.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much! As you may already know, the first chapter of book #2 is on the website: www.rldonovan.com. It’s entitled “ I Didn’t Kill Her, But That May Have Been Short Sighted!”
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